It has been a little over a year since I confronted the fear of heights that limited my willingness to try new things and take chances. Never did I imagine the great experiences that would come my way once I broke through this imaginary barrier.
What has changed? In a nutshell, my fundamental belief in what I am capable of. Leaping off the board on the trapeze demonstrated to me that I can do a whole lot more that I had given myself credit for. In fact, the possibilities are virtually limitless. I believe fear caused me to significantly underestimated what I was capable of, which caused me to shy away from venturing into unknown realms. Today I am taking account of some of the great experiences I have had this year.
- Take risks! Everyday we encounter risks, some are life threatening, the majority are not. What I used to classify as a risk (a situation where I might not perform well) I now view as an opportunity for personal growth, maybe even to have fun. I am sure I missed out on many fun times and career opportunities with my old mind set. No more!
- Amusement park rides aren’t so scary. Thrilling, yes. Scary, no! If you recall, it was as I sat on the bench watching my family ride the wooden roller coaster that I realized I was missing out and needed to make a change. Fast forward a year, even the feelings I get on rides are different. Hard to put in words, but I notice that I enjoy the whole ride instead of anxiously anticipating the end.
- Swim in the ocean! I have always been a somewhat timid ocean swimmer. I convinced myself that I only like to swim where I can see what is under my feet. No more! This summer I swam in the chilly dark waters off of Cape Cod without my old worries. Even the cold water temperatures didn’t seem so cold anymore (or the sharks.)
- Performing! Being in front of an audience for concerts & workshops is different. Learning about awareness and being in the moment on the trapeze has helped me savor my time in front of groups.
- Scaling heights! I have had the joy of rock climbing with my daughter. Trusting your 11 year-old to belay you and safely lower you to the ground from 15-20 feet in the air is an amazing experience. (I think this is a metaphor for life!)
- Goals! My goals have come into focus. It is much easier to turn down opportunities that don’t bring me closer to these goals! I know what I want!
- Learning. I engage in the learning process everyday. It took a trapeze class to reacquaint me with the process. The learning opportunities that life offers make every day amazing!
I wouldn’t trade the adventures beyond the fear barrier for anything. It is great to wake up each day without the fear. Fear has been replaced by wonder, wondering what will come my way. Aren’t you curious to find out what lies beyond your fear barrier?